The title comes from a Hungarian bride’s lament, a folk song in which the mother cries for her daughter who is stepping into her new role as a homemaker (or wife), where she has to figure out life for herself. The daughter is comforting her mother by telling her not to cry as this is the way things have to be. In my series I work with my own family heritage and the ways my upbringing has formed me. My parents have moved out of the Transylvanian village where they were born, which led me to have a very different lifestyle than my ancestors. Although the life I live, the people I am surrounded with, the decisions I have to make, in many ways differ, in other ways are very similar to the ones I know from our family’s history. The strong family community that raised me has formed my idea about the world and I only began to question it when I realized the difference between my experiences and my ancestors. In my series I reflect on the lives of women who have been forming my identity. I am combining their story and my memories to create a visual world about the roles I am fulfilling or changing throughout my life.